Branches of the Personality Disordered Family Tree

The Bully Sees their family as possessions. They vicariously live through the children, assigning each one certain roles – and expect the children to unconsciously adopt their given roles. The Bully is a Narcissist, craving to be the center of attention. They carefully create an illusion for the others to lose their True Selves in.… Read More Branches of the Personality Disordered Family Tree

Why Do So Many Victims Of Abuse Become Abusers Themselves?

This can happen when a person identifies with the role of the Eternal Victim – they expect to keep repeating the same painful situations, no matter what; always ending up in the ‘wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong people.’ They believe that their life is essentially cursed, unfair, or unworthy of anything… Read More Why Do So Many Victims Of Abuse Become Abusers Themselves?

Dear Victim, Please Don’t Become The One Who Hurt You

Dear Victim, What you went through was not your fault. It wasn’t even because of you personally. The one who abused, abandoned or neglected you…they didn’t do it because of anything wrong with you. They did it because they felt they had to project their insecurities onto someone – the unhealed parts of them that… Read More Dear Victim, Please Don’t Become The One Who Hurt You

Growing Up In One Big, Giant Personality-Disordered Family

Don’t question their obvious hypocrisy, and you’re golden. Do so, and you are the enemy. There is no, “Oh she’s just a freethinker trying to discover who she is and what feels right to her…” as healthy, compassionate parents will say when the child becomes a teenager or young adult – who thinks differently than… Read More Growing Up In One Big, Giant Personality-Disordered Family