The Bully Sees their family as possessions. They vicariously live through the children, assigning each one certain roles – and expect the children to unconsciously adopt their given roles. The Bully is a Narcissist, craving to be the center of attention. They carefully create an illusion for the others to lose their True Selves in.… Read More Branches of the Personality Disordered Family Tree
With C-PTSD, I can go through a shift in my mood without much warning. It’s very subtle, but definitely uncomfortable. Right now I am in the middle of it as i write this. I want to add to my blog every couple of days, so I’m in the habit of writing a lot. And i… Read More It’s okay to not be okay.
This can happen when a person identifies with the role of the Eternal Victim – they expect to keep repeating the same painful situations, no matter what; always ending up in the ‘wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong people.’ They believe that their life is essentially cursed, unfair, or unworthy of anything… Read More Why Do So Many Victims Of Abuse Become Abusers Themselves?
Dear Victim, What you went through was not your fault. It wasn’t even because of you personally. The one who abused, abandoned or neglected you…they didn’t do it because of anything wrong with you. They did it because they felt they had to project their insecurities onto someone – the unhealed parts of them that… Read More Dear Victim, Please Don’t Become The One Who Hurt You
Temporarily, the Narc may agree with you on a subject – gaining your trust and forming a false sense of understanding between the two of you. Then, without warning they will change it all up, and bait you… usually when you least expect it. By baiting you, I mean: they will say something that is… Read More Narcissists Bait You For An Emotional Reaction
Don’t question their obvious hypocrisy, and you’re golden. Do so, and you are the enemy. There is no, “Oh she’s just a freethinker trying to discover who she is and what feels right to her…” as healthy, compassionate parents will say when the child becomes a teenager or young adult – who thinks differently than… Read More Growing Up In One Big, Giant Personality-Disordered Family
Dear brother, I’m writing this letter because it’s hard to talk to you– we never bonded or had a real connection….even though we spent more than half of our lives around each other. I can’t just pick up the phone and call you. Even texting you feels awkward. So I’m writing you this letter, and… Read More Dear brother…